Erection Problems?

psychosexual therapy Are you having problems getting or maintaining your erection? Although sex accounts for a small percentage of time in any healthy relationship, its importance to a relationship is much larger.

Problems in the bedroom can bring difficulties in other areas of the relationship and lead to unfaithfulness, secrecy and ultimately separation and divorce. Ignoring the problem rarely brings about a resolution.

The causes of psychological erection issues can be varied and you may recognise yours in the following list:-

You’ve lost an erection before and now always worry it will happen again
You’ve got unresolved resentment towards your partner and it effect on your love-making
You partner has been unfaithful and you worry how you measures up
You both want a child and feel pressure to perform when your wife/partner is at her most fertile
Love-making is just boring, unexciting and formulaic
You feel criticised in the bedroom and lose your erection
Your partner suggests that you don’t find them attractive anymore and you feel pressurised to prove otherwise
You’ve lost your job/business, and your self worth is low and feel a lack of sexual confidence
You’ve been single for a while and are anxious about being able to perform sexually with a new partner
Your new partner has had many more partners than you
You’ve used excessive and extreme pornography and now no one can get you as excited as your fantasies
You’ve masturbated too much and have lost sensitivity in your penis
Putting a condom on makes you lose your erectionAny of the above conditions and others can interfere with your ability to gain and maintain an erection. The harder you try, the more you are likely to fail. Going into the bedroom and focussing on not losing your erection has the opposite effect.

The Mind Body Connection

In order to resolve the issue it’s vital to understand the mind and body connection with regard to getting an erection. A man doesn’t get an erection just through the thought “I want to get an erection”. He has an erection by focussing his mind and his imagination on what he finds a sexual turn-on. In using the mind this way, the body reacts by providing an erection and as long as the mind stay focussed on sexually arousing thoughts, the erection is maintained.

Losing Your Erection

When you lost your erection, it may not have meant anything to you the first time. When you lost it again it probably started to play on you mind. In subsequent attempts at love-making you probably had your mind on the thoughts “I don’t want to lose my erection” or “I must keep my erection”.

Unfortunately these thoughts are not thoughts that are sexually arousing. Then you start to worry and stress about the consequences of this to your relationship. Unfortunately stress and worry also have a detrimental affect on love-making and a vicious circle has begun.

Regain Sexual Confidence with Hypnotherapy

Steven Harold is an experienced hypnotherapist in Derbyshire and has helped many men, no matter what their sexuality, with erectile dysfunction, impotence and premature ejaculation or delayed ejaculation to recover a satisfying sex life.

He offers a free no-obligation consultation in confidence. You can be assured of your privacy and many men find talking about the issue to be therapeutic in itself knowing that they are not the only one to be experiencing this issue. During the consultation you can have all your questions answered and can agree a treatment plan with Steven if, and only if you choose to go ahead. The free consultation doesn’t place you under any obligation to go any further.

If you want to know more just email or telephone Steven on 07481 002213

Alison Stevenson

20:44 13 Nov 20

After smoking for over 15 years, Steven changed me into a non-smoker within one hypnotherapy session. I felt free as a bird and could not have been more thankful.

Benjamin Shaffrey

21:49 08 Nov 20

I went to see Steve for several sessions back in 2015 due to persistent problems with anxiety and depression. I had at that point never seen a hypnotherapist before and it turned out to have a very positive effect on my overall situation. The sessions with Steve really helped me to gradually move out of the persistent low moods I'd been experiencing, and to develop a more wholesome and sustainable way of navigating difficult thoughts and emotions.I found Steve to be a very warm and compassionate therapist who listened to me with great care and who really took the time to learn more about me and what I was having difficulty with. I would thoroughly recommend him to anyone struggling with similar or related issues.

Aj Breeze

13:27 16 Oct 20

Steve- I keep meaning to get in touch, but life is always so busy! I have not had a cigarette since our session, which is about 2 months now. In this time I have started a new job, been on holiday, got very drunk and finished by postgraduate diploma and due to start my Masters dissertation. So, I think they are some things that would trigger wanting a cigarette! But no!The funny thing is, since our session I have changed quite a few habits and I’m not sure if that is using some of the things we talked about or the hypnosis... but I hardly drink anymore, in fact I haven’t had a drink for a couple of weeks and have no desire for it, particularly. Of course, I’m sure there will be times I get drunk. I’ve lost weight and been exercising regularly. I feel a lot more positive generally and healthier and prioritise differently! I think my kids like me more this way, too! 😂 they did encourage me to stop drinking and smoking.So, really it’s a big thank you to you for helping me on my journey. I have recommended you to various people so hopefully you could help them too!

Jill Wright

16:08 28 Aug 20

I went to see Steve for help with a debilitating fear of heights which I had struggled with all my life. Walking in hills was becoming impossible and I couldn’t even help my grandchildren on a slide. I had begun to avoid situations were I might come upon a sudden drop or be challenged in a way that filled me with terror if I had to face a high place, such as inside a tall building or a bridge. Anyone with a similar problem or phobia understands what this does to your confidence and self esteem, not to mention those around you, who have to observe or deal with the consequences. Steve introduced me to EFT (Tapping) and the positive results were almost instantaneous. I worked hard at home to get the hang of the technique, between our weekly sessions, and after 4 weeks the anxiety and stress that even thinking about heights caused, was gone. Steve worked with me to use the Tapping so I can cope when faced with actual challenges and tailor it to meet whatever situation I am faced with, not just heights. I now consider myself someone who HAD a fear of heights. I will always be grateful to Steve for helping me reach this outcome through his caring approach, in a safe environment. Thank you Steve.

Marita Haley

10:28 24 Aug 20

I saw Steve way back in 2002 and it remains to this day the best money I have ever spent! I’d never been to a hypnotherapist before and was pretty sceptical about it but really wanted help to quit smoking. Two hours later I was walking back to the train and thinking that it was a big waste of time, I didn’t feel different, I had smokes in my bag and I thought I wanted one.....I could not physically touch that pack of cigarettes. I got home and had my flatmate take them out of my bag. Both my flatmates smoked and I thought I’d never be able to quit in that environment. I have not had a cigarette since that day. No cravings, no thinking about it, nothing. I can’t believe I was ever a smoker. Steve Harold is the man to see if you want to stop smoking!

Corey Newell

10:02 13 Mar 20

Steve Is a very friendly and professional Hypnotherapist and has helped to get my anxiety under control and given me the tools to deal with it in the future.I recommend his services to anyone struggling with anxiety.

Gillian Duncan

15:50 21 May 19

Steve has helped me to help myself, to manage both over thinking and stress. I recommend him to anyone and will not hesitate to see him again if needed. Thank you Steve.

George Lomas

09:28 25 Apr 19

Steve is a warm and caring individual and I would highly recommend him

Mike Photogmike

17:29 11 Sep 18

I met Steve Harold for help some years back after the most traumatic event of waking from a coma and finding my body had been crushed to some degree in a very near fatal head on road accident. To say I was a mess, is a massive understatement. Police were told that night to expect a maximum of 2 hours of life with how I was! Everything that mattered, from career, to relationship, to physical abilities were marred or gone. And I had to survive the onslaught of extensive post trauma and a 5 year legal battle over losses and blame. Steven was one crucial element in a very emotional rebuilding process that moved me to where I am today. His many professional skills and encouraged appointments built my mind and spirit to a place which kept me surviving, as the years to gain my innocence alone would leave many crumbling. To anyone who can relate to this, Steve's help was a key element in the early rebuilding stages that has made me smile at life again, had me keep going through something that seemed like an eternity to go through. Weirdly, I am doing things with my life again, I would never had thought possible, from the physical to work interests. I have beaten all medical prognosis expectations. One thing this has taught me is that the first step is always with the person it is about (you) and if you need to 'lean' on people such as Steve Harold, rest assured, more steps to where you need to be in your life will come with his standard and coached direction. I am a mark of his abilities to help an individual. And if ever I start smoking, I'll use him too to stop! Thank you as always Steven.

William M

13:32 22 Jun 18

I tried to give up smoking many times, doing the usual methods (read the book, abstained&failed) and never really gave up, after a beer I'd be smoking again. I then met Harold who tailored a session based on my needs and after one session I gave up, completely. Prior to my session I was a sceptic, however my success and the subsequent success of others that I know that went to Harold, proves that his method and process works. I would highly recommend seeing him.

Mary Yiannouzis

13:04 18 Sep 17

I had been smoking cigarettes for 25 years when I made the decision that, even though I liked smoking, I wanted to stop. And that was the problem - I liked it, I just didn't want to do it anymore, and therefore I didn't feel I had the willpower to stop. A friend recommended Steve to me, the timing was perfect, so I booked in one session. I smoked all the way there in the car, I left, I felt no different, I didn't even particularly feel like I had made a change, but I threw away the remainder of my packet of cigarettes and I have never smoked again - that was 18 months ago.It has been EASY. I haven't had one moment of wanting a cigarette. I don't know why anyone would put themselves through trying to do it on their own when one session with Steve makes it SO easy. Steve helped me change my life - I could not recommend him more.

Erection Problems?

The Mind Body Connection

Losing Your Erection

Regain Sexual Confidence with Hypnotherapy